Balancing online stardom with real-life connections only comes from effort on your part. Nobody is going to make you their best friend without your participation. The problem is that many content creators, while they have thousands or millions of fans, have very few, if any, close friends.
Balancing Online Stardom
YouTubers and podcasters get a lot of comments from fans and foes. This means people who love you and people who hate you. And it’s easy to get caught up in the hype of it all. Feeling highs from those whose lives you’ve changed, and feeling extreme lows from imposter syndrome or inadequacies from those who hate you.
News flash: Your fans don’t really know you, and most people don’t really care about you anyway. Take it all with a grain of salt. Let your common answer to both be “Thank you.” In any event, both parties (the fans and the foes) showed up for you and tripped the algorithm by responding to your work.
If you take online stardom too seriously, it can lead to burnout, where you feel you have to keep showing up each day and providing enormous amounts of content. It’s true; you are only one candle, and feeling like you have to provide all the light in the room is a fast way to burn your candle at both ends and burn out as a creator.
Let Your Light Shine
Many content creators feel that if they light another candle, there will be competition in the market and that’s just not true. A bunch of candles only make a room brighter. By sharing the same space, the same audiences, and the same fans and foes, you reduce the pressure on yourself. And, by lighting another candle, you now have a backup. In the event that you do burn out, another candle (i.e. words of encouragement from another content creator) can relight your wick.
Connect With Others
The goal for today is to get out of your comfort zone and talk with live humans. These can be locker room mates from the gym, they can be other parents at the school bus stop where you drop off your kids. You can make small talk with the grocer, your hair stylist, the dry cleaner or anywhere else you find yourself in your daily travels. Instead of rushing about in a state of solitude, stop for a minute or two and make small talk. Learn the names of the people who are in your life by chance.
Balancing Online Stardom Means Being Offline
The balance in your relationships is not always delivering the message. It means learning to listen as well. Make it a goal in the relationships you foster through your recovery not to talk about you. Don’t talk about your family, your business, and your stuff. Ask questions and learn about the other “candles” burning around you. Let them know you are grateful for them and that however insignificant their lives seem – they matter. Offer a word of encouragement or a compliment, and make sure you are always the first to smile and say hello to a stranger.
Friendship is free and only takes a small amount of your time, and it’s also one of the quickest ways to bounce back from burnout.
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